And if they feel the smallest sense of gratitude towards you, they will open up their houses and their hearts to repay you for your kindness. If you go to a Pakhtun and try speaking in Pashto, even if your attempt is really bad, they will consider you one of their own.
The most unpretentious household you will ever be lucky to be a part of. Now imagine the pride (and sometimes arrogance) in a Pakhtun who teaches you a few words and you say them back correctly – they will love you to the moon and back! In short: But – they also melt like chocolate every time they see your puppy-dog eyes.
The news spreads like wild fire in the neighborhood and messengers hasten to distant places to break the happy tidings to paternal and maternal uncles etc. The person who breaks the good news first to a near relative receives a handsome reward in cash.
Relatives and friends felicitate the proud parents and let off their guns as a mark of jubilation.
No matter where they go they will take their heritage with them. And you may have just had an argument with them but she will still bring you They may not express themselves very often but when they do they go all out!
Once you’ve made them comfortable enough around you, and they’re not shy anymore, they become the life of your personal party! If you happen to be dating a Pakhtun, the one thing you should be sure of is how they behave with other people – especially your parents.
This phenomenon presents a system of gender reversal in Afghanistan.
Whereas rural Pashtun culture remains largely misogynistic and male-dominated due to deeply-ingrained Islamic values, teenage boys have become the objects of lustful attraction and romance for some of the most powerful men in the Afghan countryside.
Brace yourselves, boys and girls, because Pakhtuns are very hard to resist and here are 13 reasons why: There’s no beating about the bush with your Pakhtun partner.The expected advent of the child is kept secret as far as possible.The expectant mother is kept secluded and only an old woman proficient in midwifery or one or two female relatives are allowed to attend to her.S/he will give you the uncensored version in your relationship every time – literally no filter!Upfront, and sometimes blunt, these guys know how nurture an honest-to-goodness relationship without any strings attached. The generosity, inclusiveness and hospitality that a Pakhtun family shows is humbling.