Author Charlotte Kasl, Ph D, a practicing therapist and nationally recognized workshop leader for more than 20 years, has had lifelong connections to feminism, Buddhism, Quaker practice, and Reiki healing.The author of several books including Finding Joy, she lives in Lolo, Montana.This post simply attempts to fit dating into a Zen and Buddhist lifestyle paradigm and give over some lessons I’ve learned over time. I wrote it so that I don’t forget the lessons I’ve learned. You should always only apply what does resonate with you.These ideas are made to fit my own life and might not fit with yours.Hi there, everybody: My dear friend Whitney was in town the other week, and one of the things we talked quite a bit about was how Buddhism has helped her feel more at peace with life. But no, seriously, let's talk, and I'll try to be helpful.(She wrote a fantastic essay for this month's Marie Claire about how she converted after being a life-long atheist.)One of the key things Buddhists try to keep in mind: When someone does something that makes you feel bad, it's rarely the case that his goal was to hurt you. Isn't it funny, though, that people can give advice they themselves can't really put into action but which nevertheless helps those who listen to it? Anyway, I got Brad on the horn, and here's how our conversation went: HOW TO DEAL IF SOMEONE BLOWS YOU OFF AT A PARTY ...It’s easy to get frustrated, either with the people out there, the LACK of people out there, or even yourself. Here are four ways Buddhist training can help with the ups and downs. You go back and forth a couple times, and have a couple of nice exchanges. You imagine what he or she will be like when you meet in person.1 - Stay Present At first with online dating, it’s easy to get discouraged. The next thing you know you’re flashing forward to a wedding, kids, growing old together… Pay attention to the person you‘re with, instead of comparing them to the person in your mind.2 - Equanimity Dating is an emotional business.
Falling (and Staying) in Love—and Beyond When you offer your love to a partner, at first it’s very exploratory. You want to know more about their past, their family, and their odd little habits.Amy truly believes that romantic relationships are the quickest path to our awakening as human beings.To stay balanced, Amy thrives on her yoga practice, daily green juice, an Ayurvedic stew called kitchari, alpaca knitted accessories and lots of love.There’s a level of joy that comes from connecting with other people in this way that we don’t want to miss out on. However, its highs are dizzying, its lows traumatic enough that we want to rid them from our memory.Wanting to be in love is natural to the human experience. It almost seems counterintuitive to try to reach contentment and equanimity in our life while also cultivating this roller coaster of emotions.