Here’s the problem…and your adult children are on a different time line with regard to your healing process.
Just because you stumble across someone who is right for you soon after widowhood doesn’t mean you weren’t happy previously. Take your time to get to know the person, date as friends first and don’t lend any money. What do I do if my grown kids don’t like my new partner—or even the idea of my dating?The following guidelines are mostly aimed at children who have lost one of their parents, but they also apply to those who have lost a parent an an older age.The most important thing is to establish a sense of safety once again.It's great to help out, but that does not mean you have to be the "man of the house" or the "woman of the house." Don't let anyone pressure you into taking on these roles.Some of the ways you can help your parent are to attend to their needs, listen, be patient and help them to remember holidays and anniversaries.