A good rule of thumb is that the longer the relationship was, the longer the time of grieving should be. #3: Don’t Try to Be Best Friends with Your Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend I say “best friends” because I don’t believe it is impossible to maintain a healthy friendship after a dating breakup for Christians.But I do think in most cases it should not be attempted.According to the girls, the “two main keys to maintaining a strong marriage are being willing to say ‘I was wrong’ and asking ‘Will you please forgive me.'” 5. Perhaps the wisest advice comes from Grandma Duggar: “Many girls think they can alter a guy at the altar.
The next one did too.” Or, “Jeremy acted like they were friends but she told me later that they were hooking up on the side.” With that kind of dismal dating culture at play, let’s consider the options: First, there’s “Duggar Dating.” Duggar dating is the modern-day form of arranged marriages.Married people have the best dating advice since they have already done it!My goal is to simply pass on, from one teen to another, some thoughts I have developed from my observations, personal experience, and advice from others.#1: Don’t Form Unbiblical Beliefs in Response to Your Breakup As A. Tozer said, “What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us.” Satan knows this is true, therefore he uses every opportunity to try and twist our understanding of God’s truth. If you never allow yourself to accept that you were hurt after the dating breakup, you will slow the healing process, or even miss it altogether. Depending on your personality and coping mechanisms, you might be tempted to shrug it off like it didn’t matter or hold onto the pain like a flotation device as you flounder in the sea of your tears.For a Christian to recover after a dating relationship ends, you need to allow yourself a healthy emotional grieving time. It’s good to be emotional, but allow your emotions to be governed by wisdom and (most importantly) by the Holy Spirit.